10 May, 2005

Having High Standards vs. Being Idealistic

Began a dialogue tonight on having high standards regarding people to date...if 'high standards' have not yet come to fruition...can it simply be called being idealistic? Do we have a fuzzy, warm, rose-tinted view of the future? Or are we being faithful to the concrete ideals that we know God has put in our hearts? I always believed that it is best to wait on the best, in every aspect, or live with the knowledge that I am truly better off alone. But is that true? Is it better to be with someone who may not have the more minor characteristics that I have always longed for, than no one at all? I have no conclusion to this quandary....I tend to think that I'm a balanced, logical person, but I came to the realization that all these years...rather than having this deep faith...maybe it was more idealistic tendencies...or maybe a mix of both...

So that's just me sounding off on what I was thinking just then...

Hope that's not too personal. :)

Oh, and I welcome any thoughts on the topic...for sure...

2 comments:

lauren r. said...

hilary... what a loaded topic, ripe for analysis, opinion and comment. :) it's so refreshing to know another girl who doesnt have the "ring by spring" mentality. (can you imagine a day in the life? yeesh...) i have to say that having high standards when it comes to dating is a far cry from unreasonable. infact, within reason, i think its quite beneficial. in the book wild at heart, John Eldridge says that one of the three things a man needs in order to feel like a man is a beauty to rescue. i really think that a woman's high standards can drive a man in love to make the necessary changes in order to qualify himself for her, and call her his. his reward: you, the earthly manifestation of God's love for him. not to mention, who wants the girl with NO standards? thats a direct reflection of what she feels she's worth. anyone will qualify... and any woman with a head on her shoulders knows that is simply not the case. Agree? anyway, sorry that was so long. :) i hope you are having a fantastic summer... and keep writing these, they are so fun to read. :)

Hilary said...

Lauren, great talking to you last night...wow...who knew we had so much in common. :)